When To Give Your Online Date Your Number and How To Protect Your Privacy

Monday, February 28th, 2011 | safty | No Comments
Keep safe when giving a date your number

When to give your number out?

Online dating is a great way of meeting new people, but if you’ve so far online communicated online, at what point should you hand over your phone number?

Giving out your phone number used to be the norm in dating, especially when you met people in person at clubs or pubs and wanted them to get in contact with you again. But with online dating, there’s so much of a need to give out your phone number, or at least not at first.

There’s also the issue that it’s not always so easy to know 100% exactly who you’re communicating with when they are just a relatively anonymous name on screen.

If this is a concern to you, then here are four practical tips for guarding your privacy en route to giving out your phone number.

1. Make The Most Of Online Communication

When you’re trying Internet dating for the first time, it can be really tempting to give out your phone number to the first people you’re in contact with. But in terms of personal safety, you’re much better off holding fire and making the most of online communication, at least to start with.

One of the major benefits of a lot of online dating sites is that they’re designed to protect your privacy. Sometimes people can seem perfectly normal and nice for the first couple of messages, but then you discover a side of them you’re not too sure about. Until you’re 100% sure and comfortable with someone, don’t give out your phone number.

2. Give Out An Email Address

If you’ve been communicating through the comfort of an online dating site and want to take things a step further, then it’s a good idea to give an email address first, before a phone number.

If your current email address has your full name on, or goes to a work address, and you don’t want to reveal that much personal information, then there are a plenty of sites where you can set up a free web-based email account that you can just use for your dating encounters.

3. Chat To Them Online

If you want to chat more than simply through email, then chatting online is a good next move. There are lots of instant messaging services available and you can begin to build up more of a rapport through direct, real time chat.

4. Giving Out Your Phone Number

If the time has come and you really want to give out your phone number, and perhaps arrange to meet your online date, then it’s still not necessary to give out your real phone number.

If you’ve got an old mobile phone knocking around, know someone who has or can buy a really cheap one, then it’s very inexpensive to buy a pay-as-you-go SIM card to use with it.

This gives you a completely separate phone number to use, so you can communicate with your date as much as you wish, but remain safe in the knowledge that they needn’t know your real number until you’ve met them and are perfectly happy about giving it out.

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5 important online dating safety issues

Thursday, July 2nd, 2009 | safty | No Comments
Be safe when meeting your online date

Be safe when meeting your online date

1. Guard your true identity until you’re comfortable to share full details.

When you’re contacting people online, through online dating sites, it’s highly advisable not to give out personal information – or at least not until you feel comfortable in doing so. This means your name, phone numbers, email address, website, blog details, your address or any other information that could be used to identify you.

2. Don’t use your real name as your username.

Most dating sites require you to choose a username. For safety, do not use your real name, as you never know who could be browsing the site. It also doesn’t always take a genius to be able to track you down. A lot of usernames may be taken, so you may need to be creative when coming up with ideas.

Do be careful if choosing a sexy username though. A sexy username may succeed in getting you noticed, but not necessarily by the ‘right’ kind of people!

3. Think twice before posting a picture of yourself on free dating websites.

Dating profiles with photos inevitably have a better chance of gaining clicks and attraction, but think twice before you post a picture on a free dating website. If it’s on a secure area of a paid-for dating site, then it’s a bit more secure and can only be seen by members. But if it’s on a free dating site, anybody could see it. So think about whether you feel happy about the potential of anyone finding your dating profile and picture.

4. Use an anonymous email address.

When you’re trying out online dating services, it’s a good idea to set up an anonymous email address to use. Not only is it handy to keep all your dating emails together in one place, but it also helps protect your identity. If and when you do decide to move from communicating via an online dating site to direct emails with interesting people, it means that you still get to retain some privacy.

5. Trust your gut instincts.

Do try and trust your gut instincts and, if you feel uncomfortable about someone who’s been emailing you, then act on it. Online dating can be great, but there sadly are some nutters out there and you need to carefully sift through your emails and suss out the true gems from the crazy bods. If you feel unsure about someone, then it could be for a very good reason!

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